How many times have you heard somebody say, “If I could combine the personality of one guy with the looks of another and the income of another guy, I’d have the perfect man?” I know I’ve said it a few times about different men that I’ve dated. Since the perfect man doesn’t exist, I wish that I could just create him using certain characteristics from different men that I’ve dated. Although most men probably think that they’re the total package, I want my future mate tailor made for me.
I like a man that is confident (read: has swag), articulate, educated, informed, intelligent, God-fearing, has a good sense of humor, keeps in shape, can hold a good conversation and has a charismatic personality. Oh, and let’s not forget tall & easy on the eyes! It seems that the men that are sweet, sensitive and caring lack some of the other qualities that I desire. If a man is charismatic, he’s not all that good looking. If he’s confident with a sense of humor, then he’s out of shape and not tall. Why is it so hard to find someone with all (or at least most) of the qualities that I want?
I have met men that have treated me well; they’ve cooked for me, taken me to nice places and said all of the right things but these men are either socially awkward or not so attractive. I’ve dated men that are fun to hang out with, great with my friends & family and really cute but don’t have that soft, sensitive side nor would they even think of cooking for me or be attentive to me. So if I can’t get the total package, I’d love to have an “indoor boyfriend” and an “outdoor boyfriend” – One that takes care of me at home (sweet, caring & affectionate), and one that takes care of me out in public (charismatic, good looking & great conversationalist). I wish that I could have 2 different men to cater to me so that all of my needs & desires are met.
So instead of creating the perfect man, I’d rather just have a boyfriend that is good to me in private & in public – the “indoor boyfriend” and the “outdoor boyfriend”.