Every time I talk to my married friends they always want to hear about my dating life. I understand that now that they are committed to one person, they think that hearing about my dating excitement (or dating woes) makes me a little more interesting and makes their life a little less boring.
Now there have been moments where I have enjoyed listening to a good story, and have imagined myself in the story itself. But my friends seem to crave hearing my dating stories on a regular basis. Not that I can’t tell a good story, and not that I don’t have interesting dates but I don’t know if they really want to hear about them because they are bored or if they are just interested in who I’m dating because they are my friends. Whichever it may be, I feel like I’m always the one sharing and they aren’t.
Maybe married life doesn’t have as many interesting stories as single life but I feel like my married friends don’t share as much with me as they did before they were married. I understand that in respecting a marriage certain things should remain sacred and confidential so I don’t expect my friends to divulge the same kind of information they did before marriage. And as flattering as it is to have someone live vicarously through me, I hate feeling like I am entertaining my friends. After all they have no more interesting stories to tell but I still do.
It’s a bad feeling to talk about relationships with a friend and they don’t share with you. I could stop sharing but then I wouldn’t have any friends left! I just wish they would open up to me like they expect, and even anticipate, me to do with them.
So to my dear married friends, please stop living through me because I am certainly not living through you!